To Debs - Egyptian husband

Submitted by Masri (Spain), Jan 22, 2009 at 15:54

Welcome Debs.

Be extremely careful.

First of all, i dont know your boyfriend, i dont know what he does for living, i dont know either where you mean to live after marrying. They are important points. Not to mention religion (main point).

I married egyptian man, same age as me and his family was also nice to me until an older wealthier woman came on stage and the "lovely mother and son" (my mother in law and my husband) decided to kick me out and to keep the other foreign woman (more than 20 years older than him).

She is better business!!! She bought property in Cairo for my husband and his family, gifts, money, etc.The only thing i could offer is a visa to come to my country and start a new life and of course, my unconditional love. As you can see there are no principles or honour for this people.

Believe me, most families are on the scam as well and they dont feel ashamed, they see it like a chance for their sons and the concept they have of marriage is just a contract, its not as sacred as it is for us. They dont see anything wrong in hurting or using an "impure infidel" and they have no problem in you keep on working. For them is less financial burden and more help for the family expenses (his family)

About the conditions of the marriage, i dont doubt he would agree to sign a legal document stating he will not take more wives but it does not quarantee you anything, he can take them and you might never have news of that. There are many kinds of marriage there, orfi, islamic, civil...

And yes, you are right about the way they treat women. I have been there for 2 years and seen it with my own eyes.

If i were you i would take my time to get to know this man, his background, his culture,his expectatives... There is no need to rush into a marriage.

Im sorry to talk like this about a culture and a country that i love so much.

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