Muslim lover

Submitted by leesa (United States), Jan 22, 2009 at 18:29

Judging by your name, I guess you are in a relationship with a Muslim man. Is it online? Have you met him? What are you doing on this site? I will tell you one thing from my experience only.....when I met mine, I had been married for over 20 years, divorced for two years by my choice, not looking for a relationship....this man messaged me several times on a social site where I was just enjoying hanging out with my friends, and finally I gave in and gave him my messenger information.

I had never spoken to a Muslim or Arabic man, didn't know ANYTHING about internet dating or scams. Not a clue....I was totally swept away by his sweetness, politeness and good looks (yes I admit it). The more I talked to him the deeper I got into it and soon found myself "head over heels" in love with him. We were planning (so I thought) to be together and I helped him ALOT, thinking I was building a future with him. It took months and months, things that were starting to not add up, lies that I caught him in but could not prove, before I was finally strong enough to break it off. And that was ONLY because I did something I thought I would never do, it was sneaky, but I found out that he was 100% not being real with me. I had to do it for me....It was only then that I was able to walk away. Was it easy? No.....I was still in love with him despite the fact that he used me for over a year. I am coming to terms with it now, but if you haven't walked in these shoes then you shouldn't judge.

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