knowing a man

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Jan 24, 2009 at 05:53

I agree with what you wrote here, especially concerning these men's cultures. A lot of women get so caught up in their exotic man's looks and ways that they fail to realize that he's just an ordinary human being but from a different culture. I've been shocked to see women married to their North African man for years & yet they still don't know a damn thing about their culture, religion etc (to them, he's just a hot, charming Arabian or "Arabic" lol). And they wonder why their relationships fail. It proves that the relationship was appearance-based in the 1st place.

In order to have an advantage in these relationships, a woman needs to know as much as she can about her man's upbringing and values. Like one poster said on here, knowledge is empowerment. A lot of scammers just see some women as clueless and gullible westerners who have no idea about the 3rd-world/Muslim way of life. And they don't want a woman who coos and blushes every time he says "habibi" or some other exotic Arabic word. They know how to turn a woman on, but it doesn't mean you should always respond, it's part of the test. A lot of these men, if they're serious about you, want someone educated and someone who could be a potential mother to their children - & can proceed to teach them Arabic, & various other things about their culture. In Islam it's the woman's role to do these things. A lot of the time they test women to see whether they will be suitable for their future plans, and respectable partners, so listen carefully to what he asks you.

Also true about the hardship of life in the 3rd-world. When we go on vacation to places like Morocco we only get a small fraction of how life is there; we see the sites, the wonders & everything is arranged for us. But native Moroccans have to live in this reality every day. And Moroccan families are close-knit - 99% of the time they will be sending money back home, & this is mainly why they emigrated in the 1st place.

And big deal, they don't all sleep in proper beds - do some women really think that they'd be sleeping in luxuriant, gold-tinted beds like in Arabian Nights? lol. Respect is a mutual thing.

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