heartbroken but not surprised....

Submitted by catherine (United Kingdom), Jan 24, 2009 at 07:46

Just thought I would share my story, I'm not really looking for advice. I've been reading these blogs for a while as I met an Egyptian man last year whilst on holiday, and we got on well. We kept in touch and he raised the stakes by telling me how much he missed and loved me, he would wait for me, etc etc. Eventually I began to believe all this and became totally emotionally invloved. We were in touch all the time.

Last week, I received a text calmly telling me that he had been married a few days previously. What a shock! I had had no idea! I spoke to him that evening and he told me, no, he didn't love her (yet) and no, they hadn't had sex, but they had signed a contract. He wanted to see me and he loved me, etc. The next morning he had changed his mind! His mind keeps changing, it seems. I will be fine - it's not the first time I have had my heart broken, and I have survived to tell the tale.

But it goes to show that, when it comes to families and marriage, yes, things work quite differently in a place like Egypt. Apparently this was all arranged very quickly (this may or may not be true).

If you are living there, and you can seeing what is going on with your own eyes, that's fine. But if you are relying on what you are being told, be careful.

Better luck to everyone else! My Egyptian was one of the most charming, kind, funny and caring men I had ever met. Ah, well.

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