What's the rush Debs??

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Jan 24, 2009 at 08:51

You have met this man twice Deb and you are confronted with the issues of marriage, converting to Islam and turning your life upside down for this man who's culture is vastly different from yours. You probably aren't being scammed but you are rushing into this far to quickly.

I have been with my Egyptian man for 4 years and am still learning about the Egyptian culture, Islam and family values as he is still learning about me, my western culture, religion and family values. At no stage has he asked me to covert to Islam and at no stage has he asked me to wear a hijab. I would be very concerned about the rushed request for marriage and the request for you to convert to Islam. Women in Islam generally have no voice and their life is for the comfort of their husbands and immediate family. If he is the first born son your life as a Muslim woman would be in servitude to his family. Have you considered at all how this life changing experience will impact on your son?

My advice is step back and take a deep breath, research Islam and in particular women in Islam. Get to know your man over time and weigh up all the pros and cons and then make a balanced and intelligent decision about your future as a couple. A long distance relationship is hard work and financially and emotionally draining. Are you prepared for the expense?

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