Turkish man

Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Jan 24, 2009 at 10:38

You wrote:
Hello. I was writing in about a man I have recently met online from Istanbul Turkey. I have been chatting with him online for a couple of months. He is 42, never married, no children, lives with his family, has his own business. He is very persistent, respectful, sweet, and polite. He tells me he wants to marry me, I am beautiful, etc. I am 33. I live in Canada. After ending a 14 year marriage. It is refreshing and exciting to get this kind of attention. He wants me to visit him in Turkey. Just wondering if anyone had any advise for me.

Hi!
Firstly, if you met a 42 years old bachelor still living with mummy in Canada would you consider him a good material for a husband?
I wouldnt...
He is either married and wants you as his second wife (religion allows them to have up to four wives, so he is doing nothing wrong)
or there is sth that made all the local girls run away...
But I would say that for 90 % he is married...

In Turkey secular law allows men to have only one wife- but clerics in mosques often dont care...So if he is already married- the only marriage he can propose to you is an islamic marriage or marriage in Canada...

This man is bad news- please dont give yourself for cheap compliments via webcam...

And for me being persistent is in opposition to being polite...Door to door salesmen are persistent too...Do you find them polite?
there is a reason for him being persistent- do you think that he has lived in celibacy till 42 years of age and know fell so madly in love via webcam because "You are beautiful" ?

I believe you are- but there are many beauties in Turkey too...Not only beauties but of the same religion too...Yet he ignored them...as he claims...

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