to noname: Turrkish man and marriage from on-line dating

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 24, 2009 at 14:08

Hi there, and thanks for sharing!

First of all, let me just say I understand how you feel and why you are attracted to this man. He is sweet, charming and treats you well. I'm sure he's an attractive fellow, too. Who wouldn't want that, especially after a divorce, right? I have no doubt at all that the attention is nice and I have no doubt that you are looking for true love.

The problem is, noname, whenever a man (or woman) for that matter wants a marriage after two months of on-line chatting, something is seriously up. The thing is, it's impossible to really get to know someone over the internet, phone or mail. It can never be the same as meeting someone in person which is why most people, even people who have profiles on dating sites, will NOT meet their life-partners on-line.

This also happens with a lot of North American men. Heck, there's dating services all over the globe that look for us as clients. I can't even begin to tell you the stories of how women from Asia, South America, Africa and Russia have really done a number on us. Sometimes, all it takes a few fake photos and the guys are already whisking away their bank accounts to them.

This idea of quick marriage seems to always result in disaster, especially when it's across international borders.

There's a really good chance this is a scam and there are probably some alterior motives here, noname. The best thing I can tell you is not to persue this. It really would not be worth the headache.

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