to masri - from debs

Submitted by debs (United Kingdom), Jan 24, 2009 at 19:15

Masri,

Thank you so much for your response, i am pleased to hear from someone who is going through this and has on hands experience. I am so sorry that this has happened to you really no one deserves this, I hate it when I hear this, how can people be so cruel and have no guilt!! It makes me sick, i come from a family that would be ashamed if a anyone did this to another human being. When I think of his family as i have met them all grand parents, aunts cousins etc...

i find it very difficult to think of them being scammers, but as i hear so many act. They are good people that i have seen and respect there religion, and have told me there views on it and he has been telling me more the past week as I have being asking lots of questions and reading about islam and the egyptian culture. He had been respectful and his family never left us alone and we have not slept with each other and wont until married if that day comes.

I will take your advice and really use it, I know i must get to know as much as i can about this man, and i certainly do not want to rush marriage with him until i feel certain that he is the one. I don't think i could handle your situation very well I am very hot headed when upset so I am going into this relationship with my eyes wide open and will not be fooled by sweet words and promises etc... We have spoken that if we were to marry then I would not really want to rush to egypt to live as my son is only 6 years and schools in the UK are so much better and to change my sons life would be a slow process. I am going to travel there a few times throughout this year and see them to get to know him in person more as I have been there 3 times so far and its been ok they have been good to me and my son, i have not been allowed to pay for a thing which i took as insult. But until we talk seriously about our future I am going to just see how it goes and make judgement from what i see.

For what you said about getting him to legally sign to no more wifes surely that would give me a right to divorce and to leave without too much hassel? I know when we have spoke he wants a proper islamic wedding then another one with my family in the UK after although if i was to marry him in his way my family would be there, i have said until he has met my family i would not marry him anyway. God my head feels like it going to explode i want to trust him but after reading about how many women have been cheated by these muslim men i can help but be worried.

Well once again thanks for you advice, I will keep you updated with what happens.

Are you still in Egypt? I hope you get through this and your life moves on to big better things.

Debs xx

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