Ginny, what have you got to lose?

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 26, 2009 at 23:08

Hi there Ginny

So, the question is what have you got to lose? Well, a lot, actually.

What I wish for you to understand is that these "relationships" (more appropriately flings and scams) can be drug on for months even years. That's a long, long time.

In fact, those who are defending their on-line, distance-related romances on the internet today in 2009 may not realize the nature of their mistake until....2012 or so. By then, how much money will you have spent? And if you get married, well, then you've got a legal contract with the state and should have a divorce, well, they'll have a say in what happens should a dispute arise.

The other question I have is that this 23-year-old age difference, was that actually a dating relationship

Ginny, I understand how you feel, and I can understand why you are attracted to this man. I'm sure he seems nice and is very handsome. But you have to take this for what it is. If this is so great, why are you searching for blogs like this on-line? Why are you posting on here?

You're more than welcome to, but people who are sure do not do those things.

Ginny, it sounds like you have not been hurt in the same way we have on here. It isn't fun. The real sorry deal about this kind of situation is that is still hurts the same in the end.

Really, Ginny, the what I have got to lose attitude tells me that you are not so much in control--of this relationship or of your feelings.

That's what he is counting on. I'm sure I do not have to tell you that most men can get their way by getting a woman to give in or give up.

So, Ginny, I think you are too smart for this. It's just a matter of doing what is necessary to avoid the heartache.

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