To Shadae comment Lisa Does not get it!

Submitted by Lisa USA (United States), Jan 28, 2009 at 01:28

Shadae...maybe you don't get it cause you do not have all your FACTS before you speak and criticize my judgement of character and this man that i know and you do not know absolutely anything about. him or me other than what I post..

First marriage is NOT THE ONLY WAY out of Morocco for these men. USA infact has what they call "Lottery" visa's..and there are worker's visa's and family visa's and visitors visa's (which hardly ever get approved)....He has two friends that have been here on LOTTERY visa for years...The Government gives so many third world poor countries"LOTTERY" type visa's to come to USA to have permanent residency and be able have the rights to work and earn a living...Maybe you need to educate yourself and read more into this culture to understand before you point fingers at all these men. In fact, One of The Moroccan's that works at our local store... friend to the Moroccan store owner ...won his rights to live here in Alabama by the "LOTTERY" Visa...and if my fiance is so quick to get his visa, he could have put in for it as well when these friends did and these were our options to get him here quicker and we have not put in for it . We could do the Fiance Visa and have him here quicker and probably less expensive as well but we want to do the Moroccan cultural wedding to share with his mom and family. He was not looking to get out of his country....Also I could have put in for a visa for him to USA back in April 2008 when I first brought up marriage to him..YES I SAID I..he wanted us to meet first and be sure of our love and how we feel in REAL and i had to postpone my trip due to work approval/denial of vacation request. My trip was planned for July of 2008 but it was November before I could go......I wanted him here a year ago. I regret now that we wasted a year on the VISa but we wanted to make sure of our love and we feel we will be happy and compatiable and feel stronger love as time passes...I can copy you where he wanted to make sure we both felt this way in real...not my words but his.....so much for a con artist waiting longer than he has too,lol. and He doesn't care what people say about him...you want to know why? He says he "KNOWS HIMSELF" he has to answer to Allah with his own actions. He doesn't need people to judge him cause HE KNOWS HIMSELF

We will reside in alabama and our marriage is honored here in Alabama and my Insurance policy 401 k etc will be governed by Alabama USA law and really I will not spend my life worrying if one day my husband will leave me for another woman...!....that would be ridiculous in itself and destroy our marriage and cause lots of mistrust...... or why should I worry if he will inherit my mortgage payment or my used SUV or my bills and my retirement shall I die which will be entitled to any spouse might as well be to a man I love and what if he dies before me? . What about me capitalizing off his death by gaining insurance from my job...thousands..Its a lot of what ifs with any man and relationship....he will only get what I leave him in USA.....This man is more sincere and honest than my first husband was in 20 years we were married....I will not convince you of this nor do i have too cause he knows himself and I know his character and it is good....I would not trade him for anyone. Its easy to read here and judge not knowing persons on other end.....we are both educated and I have nothing to hide.... My photography is hobby...hoping one day to have time to make it my main priority....I do not have business cards out and only advertised on Myspace last summer and working 58 hrs week with no time for this hobby right now til maybe the summer.....only at requests of friends or prior clients.....incase you are seeing him as a gold-digger,lol. But I know everyone's minds here are quick to jump from one thing to the next like being attacked for anything you put here in writing....Im not looking for approval but other women need to know too all that is written here does not PERTAIN to EVERYONE or does it mean its the truth or the have researched the truth...and we do not really know how these women treated the men as well...only what they write...what kind of relationship they had other than they say it was all good....use your own judgements and judge them as their own individual and by words and actions and character and family the society around them...neighbors..friends...grandparents.....they all can't be in on a scam...its highly unlikely an entire town is participating in the scam of one man the way the ladies and man describes here very often....Common sense will tell you this...

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