Response to Luigi

Submitted by Lisa USA (United States), Jan 29, 2009 at 22:01

Hi Luigi...I appreciate the fact that You think you are protecting me and i wish you could meet Simo/Mohammed to know yourself he is genuine. He is really a good person. He is easy-going and open-minded. Really Luigi you do not have to worry about me. I feel safe with this man. He is not demanding. He listens and he has a big heart and yes he is attractive to me but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and beauty comes with what is on the inside as well not only what you see on the outside.

Your response to the rest of us is just a means of saying "I don't know the future, therefore I should see what will happen." You say that you are not naive? Agreeing to marry a man before even meeting him is not naive? If that's not, then what is?..... Luigi we do not know our futures or fate with anyone. and as I said before we talked about what we wanted out of this relationship and marriage was what we both wanted in our futures and if we felt we were right for one another we would consifder marriage and we felt the same after our meeting and living together alone..We both felt very much in love..and yes if it was a man I was marrying in the states you would not even be arguing about this....you would not even care. I married my first husband after meeting him on a blind date. We married within 8 months. I was also a high school student....We were married for 20 years...but his character is totally opposite of Mohammeds and my ex was a drinker and really just didn't care....Simo and i do not have the luxery to be able to date day to day so we have to do what we feel is best for us. we both feel we know one another enough to make this marriage work. He is easy going and we have discussed the facts it may be hard for him here but he says he can easily and I do believe he may. Other Moroccan's here have and he is so likeable by all around him. You forget I was not excluded from meeting townfolk, police and lawyer frnds, grandmother, frnds young and old, neighbors, nieces, nephews,sisters from both sides of his dad's marriages and both moms. He was excited and introduced me to all as his fiance. Most scammers do not carry the fiance around others and sometimes not the parents....i know like Mohammed...he did not carry all he was involved with to meet mom and dad.....and like tonight, He usually goes to bed earlier and we talk before his bedtime and I had an appointment late that would make me miss our normal talk for the day and I came home at 7pm 1am there and I was just going to send an e-mail but THERE HE WAS he had waited like 3 hrs for me cause he was thinking something might could have happened. He had a bad feeling all day and could not sleep. So after I reassured him nothing was wrong he was fine and went to bed.....its the small things that shows one that a person cares. Luigi if our government did not impose such harsh laws we could wait our relationships out and if air fares were not so expensive....but as it is it makes our relationships already have to wait 1-2 years for approval so naturally people act quicker to get it in the process...you can't blame us for quicker marriages than the normal....at least we are marrying and not just having casual sex and a fling like some are going and doing and admitting to it.....If I was not serious, there is no way i would travel to another country for a man for intimacy.....Im a good woman and Im not cheap and he knows my background and knows I am a good woman so yes of course we discussed marriage possibilities and i wish you would quit using that as one of your defenses toward me....its a normal conversation that anyone dating or getting involved in a relationship would talk about if you care about the person. We started our paperwork while i was there as you know and ITS APPROVED BY COURT/POLICE/US CONSULATE and is now in waiting for another 3 months before my trip there to be with him again and to marry...Its been a year already and its our right to decide how we feel and if we want to marry and it will be ANOTHER one to two years after the marriage before he gets here to USA. Its not hardly rushing.

And this business about converting to Islam? Spare us, Lisa, and anyone other person on here in relationship with a Muslim who is considering this. We all can tell most of you probably would not even consider it if you were not in such a relationship......you are right about Islam...If I had not have met Simo Mohammed I would have never thought enough to research it or learn about it. I had no reason too America had its own religion teachings. We are both still deeciding the religion. Luigi Islam is not being pushed on me....I have kids and i will not push islam on them as well even if i went to Mosque and was good with this religion...I think they are at ages 12, 13 to tell me what they want.... and he says they are FREE to chose as well...and he still questions if Islam is right for me...he wants me to learn more about his religion before i decide. YES he would love me to convert but no definate decisions has been made but again, Im not in Church but I believe in ONE GOD and therefore I have an open-mind to all religion and my way of thinking is do i want my husband going to Mosque alone and me going to church alone to worship this ONE GOD? I can't see myself going to church alone and my husband to another and We all need some form of daily or weekly worshipping in our lifes together to better ourselves as a person so i ask why not Islam? We do have a Mosque here in my city....Im not sure what will happen with the religion and he doesn't seem to worry much about it at this time but I did ask him if he would convert and he said no NEVER so I would not expect him too and he is respecting me with my choice as well....anyway sorry for my usual long essays.....I just like to write,lol....but its nice to see you are having a different approach about getting your message across without being so mean and negative and i think taht is what Lina and isis was trying to tell you all along.

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