Response to Angie

Submitted by Lisa USA (United States), Jan 29, 2009 at 22:38

Angie YES I already know the facts...he can mary up to 4 wifes given that the FIRST wife will only allow him and I say he can and then If I agreed there would also be the fact if HE CAN SUPPORT two wifes...which he can not even support me and my family right now and another thing....as I have spoken with a Muslim lady HERE who married a Moroccan and their marriage was in Morocco...as long as he lives here with me in the USA...he can not take a second wife regardless and also because I am not Muslim and am American she said this revokes his right....and he has to abide by American law living here and married to me.

We have also discussed this in detail about more than one marriage....his dad had two wifes divorced his first when he married his second (mohammed's mom) and at her encouragement he then remarried the first wife because she had kids. His mom told me this.....but Simo's family has not been as happy having two families and having to share the dad over the years in both homes...he has bad feelings for dad for his decision and he feels he has not been as caring to his mother and as affectionate and the siblings are somewhat jealous of one another and causes some problems like any family.....He knows how I stand on this and i wanted him to be aware of this before hand and he agreed I could have it in writing if i so desired.....his sisters will not allow their husbands as well to have other wifes...most of the new generation of men/women do not agree with this part of the Quran just because it is in the teachings of the Beginning of islam does not mean all wish for this.

Angie, I do not have to question him or his friends. I will not doubt him. His intensions are good and i wish you could follow our talks from beginning to now i have saved and you would realize too that you are wrong....but oh well what can i do? I don't know you and I don't have to explain myself and my actions to you.

the women of the family are chosen by the parents....and mostly virgins....be careful..... His mother approached him and he had a cousin wanting to marry him and she was also a divorcee...His mom talked about this to me and so therefore she was no virgin so your theory is not true for all....Not all brides are chosen by the parents or mother...his sisters also chose who they wanted to marry. He also let his mom know he was free to chose his own bride. She loves me and i think she is happy with his decision and she and i and including the dad and one sister talked about the fact i could not give him kids and they know my stance on no second wife to bear him children....he would have to divorce me first. We have talked about this openly and his father is very religious.

As far as providing for the mom and family...all female siblings are married and the mom and dad is not poor and havea substantial amount of $$$ in bank and should there come a time they needed help...I have no problem helping MY FAMILY if they are in need. maybe Im not as selfish as you or some to worry over the money issue and what ifs....If we can afford to help them, why not? You are also forgetting we will live in USA...he will do what he wants to do not cause he was made by Moroccan law. We have talked and covered all these issues.

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