you need someone who respects you

Submitted by char (Ireland), Jan 30, 2009 at 12:06

hey i am an irish girl dating a turkish guy ...and although my situation is not d same as yours i can understand wat u mean.

turkish guys hate it when a girl tells them what to do or asks them questions so i wouldnt say he is cheating. mt boyfriend told me when we got together i couldnt have friends who were guys or go to parties etc but watching to see if your cheating is a bit much. they love to control their woman and if u try 2 b the boss it wont last for long i have learned that.

i know how hard it muct b 4 u everyone has told me 2 break up with my bf but i love him and despite our arguements(mainly due to culture differences) we get along so well but my bf respects my religion so i do think that if this guy doesnt respect u , u should 4get him. me and my bf talked about religion b4 and he said we will talk about this in future and i told him i doubt i will change my religion even though i am not that religious and he wont say anything back. i would say the hardest thing in the relationship is the culture difference because women are treated so differently there..like they are expected to b a good housewife and a turk wont maryy a girl unless she is a virgin or has just had sex with him like its so different

maybe u shud forget this guy it'll never work honey ...i know mine wont but i am going along with it 4 now...even if my heart gets broken:(

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