Crystal ball = Common Sense

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 30, 2009 at 18:19

Its just that sometimes its too inconvenient to ignore the warning signs. That's one reason why so many of these international relationships fail. It's too hard to understand them--or stop them when they go bad---so people come up with rationalizations and excuses against their better judgment. That's why people on get so defensive against me.

It's much simpler to date someone of your own country and culture, which is why most people do that. In a lot of ways, it's healthier also. For one thing, you don't have to waste your time looking up things on the internet and wondering so often if it's for real.

What I see on here more than anything else is a lack of common sense. I can hardly say that I'm smarter or better than anyone else because I've got duped many times before, and in your case Isis, well, at least you're looking. I wasn't even doing that. Common sense is simply understanding that you should not agree to marry someone you have never met and that if you send money overseas you're not getting it back. Why, unless its to a bank, kiss it goodbye. Forever.

While I respect what you say, Isis, and there is uncertainty in relationships, yes, but whenever you have to talk about it on the internet to third parties and blog about your relationship, something else is going on. At the very least, it's a deeper sense of uncertainty than your usual nervousness, it's the logical part of your brain and instincts telling you this is not right.

As far as this being a personal choice for Lisa: The second this goes bad and the second she enlists the help of the embassies and the courts, she has automatically made all American and possibly Moroccan taxpayers stakeholders in her relationship. The choices made on this blog affect more than just you and your partner.

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