Egyptian Men & Marriage in the USA

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 2, 2009 at 20:46

Hi there, and thank you so much for sharing!

Well, I can certainly understand why the posts on here would make you pause and think. Believe me, you are already halfway there just for doing that. I realize it was also probably not the easiest thing for you to say.

I noticed Isis told you that not all Middle Eastern men are scammers. Well, no one is saying they are, the trouble is is that most of them are going to marry within their own religion, country and culture, as people from every other religion, culture and country do.

The reality is that both men and women from different countries around the world scam Americans to get here or to get money or for some other ridiculous reason. The politically correct media in this county really only reports on the good relationships like this. You really don't hear much about the bad (you may also notice they don't follow up on these stories either---I wonder why). Honestly, you really don't hear something about dating scams unless someone dies over it. I don't know of any women who have, and actually, these situations tend to affect American men more than American women.

Your concerns are legitimate, because even if you have met him here in person, he is still from Egypt and could be looking for a way to stay here permanently.

What concerns me the most is that you are divorced and older than he is. Not by a whole lot, but the reality is a steady, healthy between a younger man and older woman is rare to say the least. There is an emerging trend of flings involving those two parties, but once one of them wants a relationship, that's when you-know-what hits the fan.

The thing to remember about marriage is that it is designed to be a commitment for life. Even if he's not scamming (which I think there is a good chance that this is a scam), there are still those cultural differences to deal with. More than one lady has written on here about the difficulites in marriage with a man from another culture and the sense I get from reading posts like that is that the husband and wife are two worlds apart.

The other concern I have here is you are on the internet asking for help. This is never really a good thing, and what I sense in a lot of the posts about "he's talking about marriage" is a sense of urgency on the part of the woman. That tells me that he is trying for a quick marriage, and anytime anyone opts for a quick marriage, there are bad motives involved.

The one key sign I think you need to home in on is how badly he wants the marriage. It may actually surprise you how desperate he is. Another key sign: enticing you to give him money. They rarely ask, but instead try and concoct a situation where you feel obliged to start handing out the dough. The other excuse (and my personal favourite): health problems. Oh boy, what a fuss in society that has caused! In fact, my aunt got married to my now ex-uncle back in the mid 80's because he was supposedly dying of cancer. Well, far as I can tell, he's still around and doing well and even smoking.

Look, no one likes hearing things that are negative about their relationship. I sure didn't in my crummy situation. But the reality is, if you want a decent relationship, you've got to use your heart and your rational brain, or else you're going to get taken advantage of somewhere down the line.

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