Spider almost caught in a web.

Submitted by Marian Hayes (United Kingdom), Feb 7, 2009 at 21:04

Sadderbuthopefullywiser ,

I have read you terribly unhappy story and i can fully empathize with you .I have been fortunate enough to have the courage to finally break from my man in Rabat in Morocco . .Yes i too loved him so dearly ,he was so attentive ,sweet ,loving ,charming .I was his bird he would keep me under his wing and protect me from the nasties of the world,for the rest of my life . OOh yes he was so eager to marry me ,within the first three months of our meeting on the internet .

He is a "poor "man can i help him he has nothing ,only living with his mum in an apartment ,forty five years old and not married.I went to visit him three times in a two and a half year relationship. On came the drama and tears,he has no money can i lend him some ,i sent two hundred pounds for the poor,all together five hundred pounds .i wasbeginning to see through all this ,me me me always about him .The arguments started and the punishments began because i would not marry him yet.He would not accept my phone calls,thephone was taken off thehook.No internet chats .This would go on for about five days at a time ..OOh yes and not forgetting the land and the property that he was trying to bully me into buying.and an apartment that he wanted me to buy in Morocco so that he could live in it until i could go accross and live with him.lol Not to mention the scams that he tried on me eg.Six thousand pounds for a work visa to go to Spain .Three thousand pounds to place into the Moroccan bank for him .I was told that a pai r of jeans was'nt enough, he wanted a car.

Of course because i am older i was also informed by him that when a younger man is within a relationship with an older woman she should be showering him with gifts and money.Anyway after all the cying and sleepless nights and the "silent treatment "i became used to i t.Out of the blue he would appear again,shouting and accusing meof having to wait for nearly three years for marriage .Why had his friend married his girl in france and he was left,still waiting .

I told him i knew why his friend was married,because his friend had given his girlfriend a wedding date .You see he was always asking me to marry him ,but he never ever set a date with me ,there was always excuses.We visited the British embassy in Rabat ,i asked him for a wedding date as we were so happy then, but no response i sent him 100 pounds through the Western Union for his ID update, police clearence ,and passport , I finally went to meet him in Rabat with my documentation for marriage but alas he had spent themoney and had no documents.This was just an excuse to get money from me they tel lus that they will marry us ,as it is a scam for money.

He was so angry with me because he was getting nowhere with me his little plot had failed.I was told lies ,deceit,other woman on the internet I actually had someone from this site who had been chatting with him and do you know he was asking her to share time with him too in Marrakech and asking her to marry him and have his baby.I t hank someone who was watching me from above i am sure there was an angel watching over me .So i say girls sometimes we are hurt and it seems as though we have lost evrything when we loose our man but believe me i am happy and i feel f ree from all this emotional hurt and abuse ,and i can slip into my bed at night and feel peace of mind..Thank you for taking the time to read this story... you are most welcome

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".