Going back to your man because you can't let go

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 9, 2009 at 18:11

Zella, I agree with what you say. The reality is once you get involved with these people, they are hard to shake. The relatives I used to stay with told me recently that Discover card collections has been calling asking for my myspace woman. Apparentlty, she has convinced them that we used to live together and once again she has overspent her credit card. Of course, they don't really care who pays it as long as it gets paid.

See, no matter where they come from, people who act like that are to shake off. It can even be years, like in my case, but if you've given them money or helped them before, they'll remember and come asking again. In fact, that's why our rangers over here in North America tell tourists not to feed the large predators. If you do, they'll come back looking for more. Same concept.

My concern for this site is that women will cave in and go back to their man. I'll admit I even gave my myspace woman a second chance, but after we started hanging out again, well, I realized nothing had changed.

People just don't like change, whether its politics or a relationship. I would say the vast majority of the time, if anyone changes, it will be the woman. That's why so many Muslims are protective of Muslim women dating non-Muslim men. They are worried it will weaken their faith.

Therapy really will not work on people who don't want to change.

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