Posts on this blog Part 2

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 9, 2009 at 18:47

Isis,

I really have no idea why you think I'm trying to stop you from posting. I've lost count of how many times I have said to people on here that you can post whatever you want and that I have no control over it.

No one is infringing on your free speech, but as we keep saying: There is no valid reason whatsoever for anyone to come on-line and talk about how wonderful their relationship. It's that I want you to stop posting, but what I am saying is when that happens it's never a good sign.

I don't know the status of your relationship? What don't t I know? That the majority of your communication is done by internet and SMS? That he's younger than you are and from an entirely different culture and country?

Isis, I would hope that you would know my style well enough by now to realize that I don't need to know intricate details or have a status update to see what is going on here.

You started posting on here in the middle of last summer and were VERY cautious about what information you revealed, maybe because your situation matches perfectly with all the warning signs on here. You've frequently jumped on posts that suggest that men from the Middle East don't care about age. Well, Isis, if a reasonably good looking woman is going to even give them the slightest chance of getting laid, they'll take it. Same with Western men. It's pretty obvious that sex with someone from a different country is appealing, but I think the driving factor here is the age of the men more than anything else.

The problem comes in when you talk about it being a relationship. Ever since your most recent visit to Egypt, you've been on here a lot giving advice, and what is raising a lot of suspicion on here to our readers is that you give others advice, but when someone else criticizes your situation, you get defensive and say "well, you don't know me or my relationship."

Could not they say the same thing by your standards, Isis?

But you see, it does not work that way with blogging. You've already said that he lives in Egypt, you in Australia. It took months before you even told us that, because you weren't confident enough in your relationship whereas many women who ask for advice are very open to giving out information, especially considering privacy concerns that Western women have. Because these individuals are so sick of the rat race and the games and they just want the truth.

People come onto a blog like this for a reason. For one thing, it's not that easy to find if you're just looking for general information. The highest ranking this site ever got was 15, 000 something.

What your blogging pattern tells me is that you're concerned, maybe even scared that this might not be real, but you don't want to admit it. What really has me concerned recently is after months of being nothing but critical of internet dating, you really warmed up to Lisa USA's story, and it was obvious why: Because she spent (and still does) the majority of her time bantering with and referencing me, and if she could somehow "win" against me, it might make your situation seem more real.

In fairness to Lisa, I did tell her to be wary of people who told her her relationship was okay but would never put themselves in such a situation.

Isis, if an American woman you've never met can change your mind and get you to compromise your standard (which I agree with) on on-line dating by trying to counter me with lengthy paragraphs of what ultiimately is irrelevant detail, I can only imagine what sort of wonders a younger, lean, handsome, sweet charming man from Egypt could exact on you. Perhaps you are more open to persuasion than you think.

These lengthy, detailed posts? All the ones I've seen so far on here are just fillers. I think they expect me to just "give in" because it's too much to read and respond to. Just like a uni student making things up in a term paper. I've seen that before.

I also sense you want this to work out to some end because you've had your fill of Western men. I understand the feeling. I was very unpopular in school, and when I finished, I swore of American women for good and started looking internationally. I was amazed at how much attention I got from women all over the world, mostly older women and how quickly they fell in love with me. At first, I thought maybe it was because I was a hotshot American. But, it did not take me long to realize the interest was merely in my pocketbook, which has always been quite small.

I really don't blame you for feeling the way you do, and what happened to you was about as low as it gets.

Just know Isis, that should this not work out, I'm not going to laugh and say "I told you so!".

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