Egyptian Scammers and biased posters

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 9, 2009 at 19:46

Here is your post:

I have been "dating" an egyptian man for about a year. He lives here in US and has been here since 2000, He has talked about marriage on several occasions, more recently.

When was the FIRST time he brought it up? A quick marriage is NEVER a good sign, even if you were to marry another native-born citizen.

I have been reading these posts and just haved a few questions. I have not yet met his family as he is the only one here in the US and neither of us have had time to travel with our studies.

That makes me wonder how well you know him if you are both so busy.

I am older then him by five years, and divorced. When i asked him if this bothers him he says no and the fact that having children is out of the subject is ok with him to. Im just curious about his family, I guess I see all these posts of men "trying" to marry US women to be here in the US,

Americans are frequently targeted by foreigners, so your concerns are legit. The big sign here is that you are divorced and older than he is. Five years is quite a difference if you are the older one. Remember, women mature faster than men. That's not cultural, it's biological in most cases. Some women who are married to a younger man often complain that they have just adopted a son as opposed to an equal partnership in marriage.

Many of these international relationships are scams, and the ones that are not, well, you still have your usual pool of jerks and even then several posters on here who have been married for years warn against these relationships because of the cultural differences.

I dont think this is something I have to worry about but it will always be in the back of my mind.

If you were not concerned about it, you would not be looking this stuff up on the internet or seeking their party confirmation on whether or not continue this.

He says there will not be a problem with his family as he is the oldest of four boys. Are there certain things I should be "watching" for, changes in behavior that would signify that he is doing this just to stay in the US? I hopes this makes sense to everyone, I have never posted on one of these before.

It makes perfect sense to me. You can abide by the warning signs or take a gamble. The reality is, his behavior about marriage concerns me. If he told you that he loved you very early or wanted to marry you early, that is not a good sign.

You asked me how I can possibly know this is a scam? No one can be 100% until it actually happens, and it seems that Isis has convinced you to take that gamble. Whether or not she would herself, who's to say?

I have been blogging for years and I've talked to women from all over the world. I've even done a little investigating on this myself.

What happens a lot with international relationships is that people don't go through with them. It just ends up being too much work and effort to sustain the relationship. That's one reason why liars and scammers rely on quick marriage so much. The whole idea is to catch you off guard.

If Isis can convince you that this is real, well, I can only imagine what wonders your man has implanted in you. It really does bother me that you are really giving careful consideration, and it seems like all you wanted on here was for someone to agree with you and tell you it will all work out no matter what.

That's not me and it never will be me.

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