Angie

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Feb 10, 2009 at 18:29

Hi Angie

Yes of course there's a possibility that Lisa's guy is a scammer, either of us could be right... that's ones of the problems with these relationships, you never really know 100% how they'll turn out. I won't tell anyone what 's best, as I don't know them personally, but my only advice to anyone would be to keep their distance & not give too much of themselves too fast. The more you give the more you lose. One of the problems is, no matter how much we try to warn these women on here or in real life, the charming but sleazy words of their men will always win them over again.

These men are experienced players, they look for a woman's weaknesses, just like the pimps who recruit abuse victims. So even if posters on here tell them "no, don't do it"... next thing you know they're having another hour-long IM or phone conversation with their "man" & he's sweet-talked them all over again. Pushing all the right buttons. So the woman thinks "he's not so bad after all, these people on danielpipes are all wrong".

That's a very sad story regarding that woman... but yeah that's what these men do. They know that the woman's in "that stage of her life", where she feels old & undesirable & that she's probably not getting the attention she deserves back home. So of course when some hot young thing, who could perhaps pass for a male model back home (not all however!) showers her in compliments, it's just what she needs. But words are cheap, & the less women falling for their tricks, the less confidence these men will have next time they hit on a western woman. I could swear there's some kind of Scammer's Handbook floating around in North Africa...

A Moroccan man wanting kids is inevitable... I dunno about virgins, but it seems ridiculous for anyone to think that Moroccan men won't want children of their own, cause they will. Muslim families are all about passing on the family name, so how will that happen if he doesn't have children?

Haha, well I wondered the same thing, but I don't know, a lot of the Moroccan guys here I guess are just well integrated into western society... he was muslim, but a Moroccan man I knew was invited to a christmas party at work and he got completely wasted, ate christmas cake and everything... and another Moroccan I knew even put up a christmas tree at his home... he was also muslim. I'm not sure, I think they're either not strict muslims or they just feel like a part of mainstream society, forgot their culture...

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".