To Love is Blind- Too many facts? What facts?

Submitted by Lisa USA (United States), Feb 12, 2009 at 21:38

Love Is Blind....I don't say this to be ugly, I really don't care if someone puts my relationship down. I don't post here to gain approval... I have seen first hand the ignorance in many people. some judge the men as the same...some don't like it cause they think western Women or the "white" women should stay with their own...some have even called him same as a black man which to me he is almost as white as myself and I even have a brother that I never knew was as racists as he is because he says "Just cause he lives in a country considered North Africa he must be black and therefore he has black in him and even said his hair is not blonde and I said Brother not all americans are blonde headed are they? and he then said he had "kinky hair" and so forth and refuses to talk to me over this.

He is not concerned one bit he is muslim or arabic...its all about being black...and why should i listen to this brother? What has he done for me or my kids in our lifes? Nothing he has never visited at my home the 4 years we have lived in this city he lives near to, but he wants to tell my sister and me what i should and shouldn't do,lol....I have seen the stupidiness in many and i see some of it on this board.....i agree some of these men and even many lie to the women to get what they want and the same with the men here in America or any country if they are fraudulent to begin with and have no morals or need money or something they want

. Love is Blind thinks I should leave this man who has shown nothing but good for a year because yours "LiED" to you and fooled you for ever how long he did..I do believe he had to act inmoral in some way with you...There should have been some sign...My thing is, I do not care he is Muslim or Arabic. I looked into his heart and mind and actions...I could care less about his sweet talking which he does very little of. He is very respectful toward me and is honest about everything and has been for a year now. Sure, I could walk away and do so cause you and others say so, but it is wrong to judge this man according to some other sorry man that did some woman wrong...

and I agree with Luigi some of these men are preying on overweight even considered obese women double their age or tripled the age, but its not just the Moroccan men. Its everywhere and I would ask myself if I was in this situation, does he really love me.....Im not considered fat and what weight I have, I am in the gym everyday and he is honest even with my weight that I will be perfect if i could lose little stomach.

You hardly see any fat or obese women in Morocco or at least the 3 cities I have gone to.....but then again, how can i say even this? cause even some american men love bigger women...black men loves bigger women...I work with one that would not date a smaller woman......so should these women leave their man too? Should you marry any man cause he can lie to the woman and we will not know the outcome of any relationship in advance? majority of men will lie and cheat....but then again the women are running a close race too. Maybe we should all just remain SINGLE cause we may get dumped on down the road.

All I know is I am not a naive or a lonely or desperate woman...sure i want love and i can have it right here too. i have many interested but Simo/Mohammed has been honest and his character is very good...We tease we laugh....we have cried together....he worries about me always,...never over jealous in a rude way, always respectful even to the brother and ex that has had bad comments he still tries to see the good in people...even when he thinks he has bad luck following him around, he still says Allah loves him for sure and he is always optimistic about his health, our relationship, and our marriage and being together.

The small and major issues with my kids and grown son of 23 who lives with me, things we have been through over the past year together he has shown me very well what kind of father he will be and friend to my son.....He handles situations better than myself or their own father, but he has also had a strong impact on his brother's upbringing and has had to help put himself through the 6 years of college...and we have talked about if immigration some reason does not accept us, it is not ruled out that I would not move there one day, we just want to be together full-time as husband and wife should be. He doesn't care of the Visa....he never even dreams or talks about when he gets here what he will do, where he will go etc like someone would that had hopes and dreams of coming here or wants a visa.He never asks about my town, city, neighborhood...Its always just about us and the kids and his family....nothing more.

He values my opinion on everything. If he gave me one sign that he does not love me or his intentions are not good, i would not marry this man....I can be a bitch...Im not easily walked over and i think he knows how i will stand up for myself. Im not the typical woman he may be accustomed to but he also knows I am a good woman....does a lot for her kids, and stay home and he trusts and knows that i am faithful to him. His main thing from the start was more about how I treat others and to see if I was a good respectful woman with morals...

He never questioned me about money or what I have or don't have but he knows all i have is my job and a small older home i owe lots on cause I still owe an 8 year mortgage. Im not rich, no savings....work hard to make ends meet being a single parent and i get no child support the dad now tries to get disability, and he knows besides my good paying job, i am really just as poor as him living in america which everything we know costs more and we worker harder and longer hours to have what we do own...This man is smart....Intelligent infact....I would think he would go for a rich woman cause there are many rich women that are naive and would love to give all their money to a younger man, he knows this...why settle for someone almost as poor as yourself.....believe me, he knows all my troubles and he still declares his love for me and he worries about me and the kids and even the older son.....infact, he told me to not make the son move that he will be fine with him...I said it was time he be on his own,lol....He would rather have the famiily together as long as my son showed good morals for the younger sisters which he has not done well with lately.....Well I can put lots here...You can read a lot, but regardless, You have been hurt and you will not see past your hurt and betrayal.....I do not look for your acceptance or others cause unless he tells me he changes his mind, i will marry this man cause I see the true him and sure even he has said he will not always be perfect to not expect him to be perfect but he will only do his best to try and make me and us happy...what more can I ask for in a man?

His honesty and truthfulness....He is himself and he will tell you "he knows himself and trusts himself" and he doesn't care what others think about him...he knows himself his intentions and goodness.....so you can post all the negative you want WHICH I KNOW YOU WILL I expect it from my experience on the past on here and how can you see the good in him or me? You don't know us.. and we do not knwo what the future holds for us but we know we have talked about how hard we will try to make the other happy and be good to one another and we both know there may be some difficulties like in any relationship or LIFE itself.....We both are grown and we know this...We don't have to read it on a blog to know or understand this,lol...so we do not expect it to be all "Rosey"....Infact the first year once together will be the hardest I am sure....but we both are not quitters in anything we do....I have read everything here....and I look at his character and I have asked him many questions which he does not mind answering and he never beats around the bush about...He has even gave advice to others to always "love with Eyes opened" His own words. He doesn't take money from me. cause his words' you are a mom and you need EVERY DOLLAR baby" Please dont offer again. I live here for free in family home...I want for nothing. i have food and bed...I don't care of money"

How many more tests should this man have to prove for anyone here to know he means well by me? Why judge him without knowing him? I have opened up a lot I should not put here to show others there are good men too in Morocco and I can post lots more put its our privacy and really i feel i have posted too much here and i know he would not like it from my experience with my own family how he says it doesn't matter what others think as long as he knows himself, but some have seen the good too and have contacted me and im not saying their man is good, There is no way i can tell you what to do, i just know myself and I know my man at the time and I really don't see him changing much....and I love him enough to make this cultural difference work. we both have opened minds and big hearts......

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