Relationship defense posts---commentary and support for Louisa

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 13, 2009 at 20:53

Hi there Louisa

Thanks for sharing. Well, a lot of readers have been telling Isis they sense trouble in her case. While she is taking a lot more precautions than many of the women who will put up with any sort of behavior for fear of losing a young, handsome exotic man, it just is not always enough.

The largest difference between those who defend international dating and those who reject it is based largely on one variable: Getting hurt. Those who defend it have not been hurt by it, and their views will change once that happens. It pretty much always happens like that.

Getting hurt is basically why we have seen general comments posted about an entire religion of men and an entire hemisphere of men.

The reason why like you, Louisa, I have such a dim view on people coming on here and bragging about their relationship is that they are just in some cases rubbing in for people who have been hurt. Credit the media in the West for that one in which we are taught to appreciate every single culture---except our own, of course, as syndicated radio man Jason Lewis would say.

If you are in a healthy, stable relationship, what gets said your culture or his on the internet should not matter at all and you should have no good reason at all to seek out total strangers and tell them about how happy you are. That's a key indication something is wrong. It has been and always will be.

My concerns for Isis began a long time ago, but since her most recent trip to Egypt, she has returned much more confident. Unfortunately, seeing a man a few times out of the year is no way to get to know him, and the age difference between her and her man is a red flag warning sign. In any case, older women who expect to hook up with a younger man from anywhere ought to be careful. The prospects for success are slim to none.

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