becreative, egyptian men

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Feb 17, 2009 at 17:59

Becreative, first of all try not to fall "head over heels" for this man - it's very easy to fall for a charismatic Egyptian man (from a bazzar, hotel or felucca?), but please don't let your heart overpower your head. You may not be in love with him now, but give it a few months & you may be spellbound. Egyptian men are very charming and sociable, and I can see that you're already hooked in a small way (:

I suppose it depends what you want. Don't rush into anything, Egyptian men don't respect women who rush into a man's arms, although they won't say this. So you should be very stubborn. If you want to go to Egypt with him, that's fine, but you should go as a friend. Don't let him make advances on you too soon, no matter how irresistable he may be. And be wary if he claims to love you and/or wants to marry you within a week or two. Fast "love" between two grown adults just doesn't happen that quickly. Maybe you should bring your daughter with you, as you might be less tempted if you have her with you. I think you will have a nice time in Egypt, but if I were you, I would go for just that - a nice time. Take in the culture, get to know people etc., but never let a man win you over with sweet words. Talk is cheap, it's actions that are golden.

Also, it isn't socially acceptable in Egypt for a man to share accomodation with an unmarried woman - it's ok if he just visits, but please watch out to see if has other intentions. I heard of a woman who did a similar thing to you, even fell in love with the egyptian man, but in the end he scammed her and married a Nubian egyptian woman... and she never really forgot him, which is the sad thing. I'm not saying that this will happen to you, but the best advice would be to keep your distance. Keep him as a friend, then maybe a good friend, and if you do fall for him, don't get too serious until after you're married. Boyfriend/girlfriend-type relationships are rare in Egypt if you're over 25 or so, unless there are unsavoury intentions. Egypt is quite a conservative muslim society, and most of the men want a respectable female partner.

But all in all, if you do go, have fun, and remember not to wear your heart on your sleeve.

Good luck

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