Isis and original poster

Submitted by Egyptian Friends post (United States), Feb 20, 2009 at 20:28

If your friend is between 30 & 40 years old he will be most certainly married and have children. If you visit his family be wary of the possibility of a "sister" living there with her children - this would be in all certainty his wife. Or - he may just send her back to her family for the day. Indicating that he is still living with his family tells me that there is the strong possibility that he is the eldest son and certainly married.

Isis, I do not know Egypt or how conservative Egypt is compared to Morocco but I read this statement and its good advice to be careful and investigate this issue as well and keep an open mind about it since Muslims are allowed up to 4 wifes, given the fact he is a player and not sincere. Keep in mind, this does not mean they want even two wifes to support and deal with the drama. Im sure some Egyptian men would feel the same way as some Moroccans feel -all being Muslim- and have this right provided in the Quaran. Also Im puzzled to why you think all 30-40 year olds HAVE to be married at this age.

There are some who have not and wait for whatever reasons. I do not want to discredit what you are saying here but I look at my own situation and Simo is the eldest son, never been married, had only one real relationship that he actually loved the girl but she like others were encouraged to marry someone who was wealthy and so she did just that. Her mother had a strong influence on her decision. It took him 6 years or longer to be sane in his mind and get over this girl and the betrayal. Some of these men also spend 6-7 years in college classes and choses to put their life on hold til they have stability and income.

Simo will be 33 and he is not married and has neighbors as old as 40 plus and a friend who is in early 40's who doesn't even have a girlfrnd and he has been a lawyer now for two years or better....so it bothers me to read postings that EVERY SINGLE man at these ages are CERTAINLY married or has been. As you know, Isis, Simo even had ones here to post that his sisters were his wife also and argued back and forth with me even with the fact me holding the birth record for entire family in my hands at the magistrats office/police offices and it had all children listed by order of both the dad's two wifes families and all sisters I met names were on that birth record. I continue to talk to the mom and sisters on cam and I can see the love for me and the fact they know their brother and son is happy and he desrves to be happy for once. So they will love me for this reason alone and want to see us both happy.

Im sure too they want to see this brother and son do better with his life. He has always been sort of a loner and to himself. He doesn't loath at girls or really care. He still choses to live at home and jobs are not plentiful in El jadida where he lives and he has no car. He walks mostly. He is always home early and his dad was strict in the upbringing and discipline and it carries over to the youngest brother as well. The dad still choses to lock the main entrance to home-its gated- at 9:00,lol and this means no going out for Simo as well after 9:00 to even get food at streets if his mom did not cook. The dad thinks this will make a good Muslim out of son if he sets boundaries and rules and off the street after hours. The sons feel the dad is too hard.....anyway, my point is all situations are different.

Like Simo, he always told me he was average in looks and argued when I would call him handsome and he would correct me and tell me I only think this cause i love him....anyway, I think cause of this girls leaving him he had some self Low-esteem issues maybe and therefore didn't bother with the girls and he knows they look at what is in the wallet and not what is in his heart he tells me and he wants to be loved for the right reasons which i can see his point. I feel the same way. I rather have poor man who loves me than a Rich one who may not care and only loves his money and what it will buy.

Yes, you gave good advice but we can't say his sisters is his wife, but its good to know some may try this if their intensions are bad. Its sad that so much time is invested before the known facts emerge for some......maybe they can ask while in families home to see this birth record.....bring up the differences or something and investigate the possibilities. make sure it is an old original record not one fabricated...that is why I suggested while in home, don't allow him time to doctor the document.

If he loves you he will wait for you....the good Muslim men who are strong in their religion have patience and lots of understanding and love for you and others and love their country and religion. Also keep in mind, some can say they are very religious and may not act so same as some Christians or other religions. You can learn alot about someone on cam through questions and body language and expressions,hesitations, conversations, and the initial visits to their hometowns and how they interact with family, friends, and strangers at the street, and how well they correspond with you. Is he always there for you and at time and never any excuses why he was delayed, etc? Also like Simo he calls me by name so much that he can easily slip up if he had other women he talked to....That was my ex-husbands mistake he did the same and once on phone he said I Love you Terri and not Lisa,lol....I look for little things that may be of importance.....and my ex would call me his sisters name when he had been around her and call her Lisa whenever he was around Sherry,lol. Simo's advice isthat we must love with our eyes wide open.

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