Message for Isis - Advice on being married to Egyptian

Submitted by Debs (United Kingdom), Feb 21, 2009 at 18:38

Hi Isis,

I have been reading through some blogs and you say you are married to an Egyptian man. I was wondering if you could give me some advice, I have written on here before and I think you have commented on my situation. I just wanted to know how you find being married to someone from Egypt with regards to culture differences, how there family have accepted you? Did you convert? Are you living in Egypt if so how have you found adapting to life there.

I know this seems like lots of questions and totally understand if you don't want to answer them as they maybe too peronal. But I have been reading lots on culture and there family values and traditions and there is so many things saying different things so to get an idea from a western women who has taken the step and seen it for themselves could give a better picture, even if you do not live there, things in your life must have changed etc....

I am still going great with my guy been coming up to a year now and he is still the same person I have not seen anything bad by him so far, I took the decision to take it slow and not rush into marriage and he has agreed to my wishes, there is lots to do before this, he wants to get a better job and complete his flat that he is buliding and i want to learn as much as I can about there culture and islam and be fluent in arabic which is coming along OK. I don't think marriage will happen until at least next year as we both know what we need to do in this time and gain so we can have a good life together, this is all providing it continues to go well. I think i started abit love struck, from having bad relationships in the past in fact terrible ones i think meeting him was a breath of fresh air but I took a step back and thought what am I doing rushing something I am not 100% about i would be the same with a western man, and since then things between us has got better and my mind is clearer, we get stronger as every day passes but we are fully aware of difficulties we will face, with culture and religion etc... so I am just after abit of advice on problems you may of faced with these issues and his family and friends.

If anyone reads my blog and is married to an egyptian or muslim man I would be grateful for any advice.

I look forward to hearing from you.

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