Some careful, useful thoughts for becreative---The word love

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 24, 2009 at 19:27

Becreative:

Let me just say I appreciate your keeping us up to date, and I can tell this is very frustrating and confusing for you.

You see, this is where all the problems start. I mean, you're taking notes and analyzing what he says. It definately tells me you don't trust him, and this is why most of these kind of relationships are doomed. They require too much effort and checking it sucks all the fun out of it, but of course, becreative, if this is something that you pursue it's better than walking into it blindly, it's just you've got to aware of what is going on and what is real and what is not.

That feeling won't change, unless you want to just walk into this blindly. Now, I realize this sounds harsh and cruel, but it's really what people need to do in order to protect themsevles. It is one big reason why if you took all the people who are looking to date and meet friends on-line most of them will not find a lasting partnership or friendship on-line. It's just too much and in the end not worth it.

The problem with the word love is that it has so many different meanings. Obviously on this blog, when the man says "I love you" he is speaking from a romantic perspective, and as we have seen, they are quite good at faking those feelings in many if not all cases. But my best friend and I tell each other we love each other (it was her idea) but its friendship.

The quick "I love you" is definately a bad sign. I don't see how this man could have true love feelings for you with you being there and him being in another country and its only been three months.

Becreative, if you do decide to go, please be careful, but by NO means should you feel like you have to go. Be in control, becreative. It seems to me like you are. If you weren't, you'd probably be on here acting all offended by the bad stories and comments made by me.

Just don't give him that power over you. It's not going to be all that fun being on your guard, but it'll be worse if you just give in.

If I were you, I would not waste my time on this, but just remember what this is all about if you decide to go and keep it real, becreative.

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