Leigh, I have a comment for you

Submitted by sara (United States), Mar 2, 2009 at 19:56

Hi Leigh, It is nice that you are helping others on this site, but I am now fearful for you. It seems that your man is behaving much like the worst types described here and you are agreeing to move forward with your commitment and relationship.

Speaks arabic without telling you what he is talking about? Knowing that they are scamming other women? Really Leigh, it sounds like you know in your heart that this is going nowhere good. Once you bring him into your country everything will change and you will be in a much more vulnerable situation. Are you really just secretly hoping that he fails the interview so that your decision is made for you?? If that is the case, you are being very foolish and endangering yourself!!

Your doubts and apprehension are there for a reason. ALWAYS listen to your gut. I unfortunately ignored what my head was telling me in the past and ended up married to an abusive man. He called me names and behaved badly before we were married, but i went ahead anyway cos I loved him and thought it would stop, It not only didnt, but got much worse, I ended up being suicidal and barely managed to pull myself out of it.

I know it takes guts to take action, do it. You will feel so much better when you have empowered yourself and removed yourself from what you KNOW is a bad relationship. This is not your culture. Do you really think this man will treat you better, later?

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