I felt exactly the same!

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Mar 6, 2009 at 13:54

Hi becreative

He has been in the tourist industry for 9 months and never had sex? Mine told me I was his first woman but now I know that was not true. These men seem to tell us what we want to hear for their own gains. The majority of these men lie and its a known fact. I dont know if you have to have an orfi marriage to be in his company but I know these marriages allows them to have sex with you without any responsibilities and are looked down on in their culture. You dont have to have it registered it can be torn up at any time and mean nothing. A lot of the men in the tourist area's have lots of these marriages to all different women all going to visit them at different times.

They do like to buy gifts for us and if they respect and truly care for you then he will want to pay for everything while you are there, men are the providers and they are proud of this in their culture. Most of them say they are poor and have no money and you feel obliged/want to treat them, buy gifts give money etc, I advise against this as they lose respect for you.

I didn't have much money but he wanted so badly to get married mmm interesting. When his plan was moving too slow he moved on, he did me a favour becaue it made me realise he didn't want me at all, he played a good role to try to convince me for over a year that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and live in England.

I know you must feel ecstatic about going as I did and I never wanted it to end , i dont mean to sound all negative but just don't be rushed into anything, he and his family will make you feel really welcome and I know you will have a fantastic time, I did, it was magical. But for me it wasn't real, I know this now. Mine was charming and very convincing that I felt guilty doubting him . aah well life goes on!

Best wishes and keep us informed x

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