Lisa USA---Moroccan Man and marriage

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 8, 2009 at 14:19

margaret, the man left his family thousands of miles behind....he loves his family he has lived with for years.

How can you possibly know that?

Why is it wrong in your eyes he keeps in touch with family while in USA? Im sure Rosie also kept in touch daily as well with her family via the net, but it is wrong for him too?

You're assuming wayyyy to much, Lisa. Then again, that's a big reason why you are rushing head first into a marriage with a man you barely know yet refuse to admit because of a) his age and b) his looks and c) his charms.

You know, all those great concepts that make a marriage work.

I don't get all this negativity on your part.

Probably because you have never been screwed over in an on-line relationship before. It has a tendency to get you to look at reality in a hard way.

Ok, you say the wife is last to family, I strongly disagree with you. It is a personal choice and if these men put their family back home FIRST then maybe he is with you for the wrong reasons if he is doing this.

Lisa, depending on how strict (or brainwashed) of a man he is, many Muslim women do NOT have equal standing with men. Isis has blogged about this.

Are we not suppose to help our neighbor and family in need?

Does this mean that you give to charity that you aren't romantically/sexually involved with?

LIsa, we've covered the genorsity excuse before. It's pretty a load of nonsense.

Mohammed is thinking maybe $40 here and there over a few months...You make it sound like they will send their entire paychecks,lol.

You can't speak for EVERY INDIVIDUAL MAN what he will or will not do just like you can not say what will happen in Rosie's situation so why be so negative and disrespectful to her and all this culture of men? Another example...all the Mexicans here are famous for sending money back home to family members...does not mean every one of them will....

.I know of one Moroccan mom who has not even heard from her son since he has moved to the US and she does not know if he is dead or alive! You make it sound like all these men are BARBARIC,lol....

No, she doesn't. You just want to see that so you can rationalize your own relationship.

Some have great caring hearts and are hard workers and you as a wife becomes his lifetime partner for the faithful & religious muslims do not accept divorce easily.

Some Muslim men marry prostitutes and then divorce them for the sake of good old sex.

All too easy. Selfishness often is.

Given this fact, why would he not love you just as much...You are the one sharing his bed and life,

There's more to love than just that. You were married before, right? Surely, Lisa, you know that.

It is also in Quran that it is ok to marry a woman of the BOOK meaning a Christian or Jew and a wife is a good thing and it encourages marriage

The single purpose of that idea is to spread Islam and conquer the world.

and tries to do all to keep marriages together so why on earth would this man IF HE LOVES YOU not want to put you first?

Maybe because he may not love her?

Im beginning to realize most of these marriages fail because the couple does not try hard once the man has come. There seems to be too many jealousies of the family back home and reasons to bicker back and forth....couples not trying to work together or talk about the situations.

Your realization is inaccurate.

The trouble is, Lisa, you can talk about it on-line or over the phone all you want, but unless you are in person, the certainty and trust goes down, unless of course you are just naive and want to marry someone you don't know and then come on to Danielpipes.org in order to stick it to people who have been hurt.

Most of the "marriages" on here fail because:

1) The man or woman is a scammer and does not really love the other person back

2) The man or woman is just another bad, unstable person. These are the types of people you can find easily looking for attention and love on the internet

3) The cultural differences.

It's also why MOST people here in the USA will NOT date interracially or interreligiously and why they all live in the same communities.

Of course if this is happening, your marriage is going to fail cause after awhile ANY MAN does not want a wife if all she does is gripe all day or look for too much negative in him to make a good thing work.

You're right, Lisa. The perfect prey is a woman who thinks he is flawless. Makes his job all the easier.

-Luigi

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