reply to dont go

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), Mar 9, 2009 at 09:37

i can see i have created a debate here. with quite different opinions each with different views. I am actually going back to Egypt for holiday anyway and with my daughter. i was going back regardless of my friend in question. he suggested if i ever wanted to visit again he would show us around and take us to see his family - this has obviously escalated in certain areas as we have chatted on the phone most days.

i wasnt aware until i got back home he was actually asking my daughter about me. more information than i wanted him to know too may i add. and dont forget i had a male friend with me too - my egyptian friend invited all of us as a family.until i put him right that i wasnt married or involved with anyone. This is where it went from friend to love and the rest... i have not been approached in any way re coming to England and i have no intention of living in Egypt. that does not mean i will not visit as i have so much more i want to see there.

As for my friend he loves his country his family and lives on the west bank very happily - he may want a better life -but ,i cannot fulfill that dream if it is money he wants - as i need it.! the reason i am getting as much information as i can is i do not want to go with no knowledge, which i didnt have before i came on this site.

unfortunately the culture is a hard one to take onboard and isis has helped me on this issue.- as for the age difference so what!! i dont look anywhere near my age and have been in a relationship with a guy 15 years my junior before and it was for over 7 years - so that part doesnt concern me. i have looked at his picture with me together on zoom and fully zoom at every angle and we do not look any different as age goes. i think we all expect too much from the relationships in general , it depends on the individual as i have aquaintences that go over regularly for toy boys and sex , they dont care and dont want anything other than a holiday romance. that is their choice, i myself want to gain his respect and friendship and i will do my upmost to achieve that -if it means i am too hard a catch then so be it, then i will know his worth.

i appreciate everyones concerns and many people have had awful experiences but i wouldnt give money away willy nilly , i dont mind paying my way as i do here in uk but if that ever crops up in conversation or he ever asks me then its history. it a shame all egyptians are labled in this way either gigalos or scammers, but it is temptation that makes them do these things, so i am not going to put that in his way. luigis point of view is understandable as he see things from a mans perspective and i can see his concerns, i know my friend may be a wild card , he may have an ulterior motive, but i am aware of what they might be. im not all starry eyed thinking of wow a virgin -that doesnt rock my boat , but if he is a gigilo that is something else, i will be able to hopefully work this out when im in his company.

thanks again - as he is away in the army for re train for 10days this may make his age about 34? although the army does have guys on standby for 9 years or more. so watch this space. xx

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