becreative- you are really ignoring the facts and reality!

Submitted by sara (United States), Mar 9, 2009 at 17:29

Sorry becreative- I just could not help responding to this one... Let's see, your 'man':

-will be inaccessible for over a week to be 'in the army'

-is 35-40ish and has NEVER slept with a woman

- will provide for you and your daughter but does not make any real salary

OK. So what I am hearing is a man who is lying about everything. I mean everything. He is most likely entertaining another visiting female victim during that week and is afraid he will be caught if you try to call him. Haven't you read all the stories about men approaching numerous women at once, all older women, who come visit them, give them gifts, etc, they juggle them all expertly, until they get caught... but there are always more victims.

As for being a virgin, the only way I would believe that at 40 years old in ME culture is if he were gay. So which is it? Either way, he is in it for ulterior purposes and you should have NONE of it.

Please let your gut feelings take control. You call them paranoia? Usually when we are afraid something might be wrong, it is. You mentioned he was grilling your daughter on the phone for info? I really do not like the sound of that! Why do you accept it?

I would strongly dissuade you from continuing with this fantasy relationship. fantasy because there is no one there for real on the other end...

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