To Anna: Algerian men date dating marriage visa

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 9, 2009 at 18:19

Hi there Anna!

Thank you for coming on here and stating your concern! I'm sure it was not the easiest thing to say.

As someone who has been on here over a year, yes, there have been stories about Algerian men, but these scenarios are hardly exclusive to men from North Africa. I could tell you all kinds of stories about women from Nigeria, Russia and Asia.

But let's back up a second here.

Most of the problems talked about on here come about because of uncertainty. This comes from the lack of communication occurring over distance. It's a lot different, more difficult and less effective to communicate over phone, internet than communicating in person. A lot of women on here ask themselves "Is it me? Am I being paranoid?"

That is hardly the case, Anna, as your concerns are perfectly legitimate.

The warning signs to watch for are:

1) Trying to get you to offer money. They will rarely ask directly.

2) On-line at 2-3 am local time. People who are on-line at night are almost always up to no good.

3) He signs in and ignores you

4) He says I love you right away. I had a Russian woman tell me that once in her second e-mail to me

5) He makes up a bunch of family emergencies and health excuses. If it was that bad, he wouldn't (or shouldn't) be spending money and time on-line or an international phone plan.

6) Also, watch what his comments are on politics and such. If he doesn't respect your culture, he probably will not respect you.

7) He wants a quick marriage. Quick marriages are always bad and are usually forced for the legality of marriage more than anything else.

Some common myths:

1) My man is from a non-Western country and is Muslim. Therefore, he has good values and knows how to be a gentleman.

2) Because my man is religious, he won't want to sleep with me, and if he does, he has changed.

Anna, I realize this is difficult and this may not be want you want to hear, but it is very important to consider all of these items.

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