ADVICE GIVEN FROM AN OLD, WISE, WITCH...

Submitted by Witchy (United States), Mar 9, 2009 at 20:22

Wowies... I feel as if I have met many of you already. This is my first post after four days of lurking and taking in all of the emotions and energies that surround such a heart-warming, heart-tugging and heart-breaking situation of internet/international/interracial love.

Sigh... I would just first like to say.... been there, done that ...Yep, I hooked up with a man from another country over the internet. I have experienced the butterflies, joys, anticipations, tears, sadness, hate... it's a rollercoaster all the way. But, aren't all relationships like that? even in your own country and your own faith? Married or just dating?

We did marry, however, It didn't work out for us. In fact, we were together a whole six months after we married. The reason it did not work is really irrelevant.

An old, wise witch once asked me...

"What is worse... Regretting something you've done... or regretting not having done something????"

I used this advice when i chose to be with this man. Even though it did not turn out well, in fact, it was probably the most hurt I had ever experienced in my life. (I'm in my late 30s) However, I am very sure I would have regretted not having explored it. And after having recovered from the hurt and anger, I am a little bit wiser now.

It didn't work out for me. However, one of my sisters is married to a man from the Middle East. They live in the US, she converted to the muslim faith. They have the most beautiful, respectful children I have ever seen. They have been married for over 20 years. And, like all other couples, they have their ups and downs, but nonetheless still happily married.

Trust me, all in all, I've seen up close both sides of the coin. So, I say, if you think you will always wonder, "what if?"...... it might just be worth finding out. I know it would have eatin' me alive. lol Just use your common sense, don't be paranoid, but still be cautious (wouldn't you do that with any new relationship?). If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't right. Listen to yourself and be true to yourself.

And, only intelligent people investigate something that will impact their life to such an extent. It doesn't necessarily mean you are having doubts, or insecurities, it simply means you have brains enough to go into it with your eyes wide open. Blind faith is not using common sense.

I've learned a lot through my experience, but you never stop learning. Oh, and would I do it again??? You bet! You never know what the Universe has in store for you. ;)

Goddess bless the ones here who are sharing their stories, both joyous and tragic. "Never regret something that once made you smile."

Peace...

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