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Submitted by Bewildered (United Kingdom), Mar 10, 2009 at 17:32

Hi there

I was naive before i met my egyptian guy but all that has happened to me proves that my man was one of these players looking for financial gain and a visa plus anything else they can get. But really I knew something was not right just like most on here and what do we do ladies? we are so smitten with them loving all the attention thinking they MAY be in love with us and they are different that we ignore all the warnings and doubts thinking we are being paranoid! Their excuses are so far fetched but we end up accepting them! why do we? because we dont want to spoil this beautiful time in our lives, spoil the chance that we could be with this georgous exotic man who is declaring his love every day, forever.

I'm not ashamed to admit I was stupid, let me tell you the excuses i challenged him with but reluctantly ignored because I may have been wrong huh!

Not answering phone /messages for hours sometimes days- battery dead/ on silent because working/no credit

Borrows money from friends for credit on phone just for me!

On yahoo and messenger at same time, going off and online often/ net no good/cyber closed/ needs to go to another cyber.

Father and mother both working proffessionals/ sisters in university but he's working as waiter in tourism/no money ever!

Buys new clothes/ jewellery/ shoes/ mobile/ watch / video camera but no money

Asking for money one time but knew not to ask again!

Can you bring phone I will pay you

Lost gift s I bought him

In and out of jobs and not in work for months at a time.

Father bought apartment for us to be together in marriage!!

In hospital 7 days unable to contact me

Unable to use net in Egypt

Took money for hotel stay together arranged directly at hotel in sharm with friends/aquaintences( 250- 300LE per night cash didn't accept credit card)

SWEET WORDS

You are beautiful my heart / your eyes are enchanting / i like your face your smile / I love you / I want to be with you forever / be my wife I will love you in forever my heart / habbybti / ana habek owi / miss you so much / I feel I die without you / when can you come? / I don't sleep thinking of you / you have magic eyes / no other woman but you .

Becreative, I will be honest with you, I think he is telling lies already and you may be aware of this and that you are fooling yourself into thinking you can take it or leave it and just have a good time, I thought the same at the beginning but they have a way of grooming you and before you know it your involved emotionally, you tell yourself I can walk away but its not that easy when they are so persistant convincing you that they love you and want you forever. I know that all these excuses he gave me are pathetic now but they put them across in a way that makes you doubt yourself like you say paranoia, I don't think you beleive he is going in the army for one week but you have already accepted this and this is what I mean. Mine was very loving charming to boot but where is he now? with another because he couldn't wait for me to return and he loved me so much!! If you go to see him he will want more than you are expecting and if not this time it will be next time. I think you need to make your mind up and if you go then I can see you will fall for him and in the process get used. Afterwards like me it leaves you feeling empty, financially broke, depressed and angry that he managed to fool you, but they just move on without feeling onto the next one.

I don't want to be so negative but the good Egyptian men are like they say on here ,higher up the social ladder and not after money/gifts etc, I learned the hard way and ironically I still have feeings for him and its hard to forget very hard. Think about this plz

I wish you all the best in all you do

Talking about marriage often

Cant come on net for a week?

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