To anna - algerian man

Submitted by anonymous (United Kingdom), Mar 11, 2009 at 17:14

Anna, He is already being dishonest before Allah. He is living with you. In sin - and you're one of many before you. I assume from that you are having a sexual relationship. Yet he is claiming to be a pious muslim. Go figure.

There is so much of what you say that sends the alarm bells ringing. He is pushing you to convert, which is against Islam. He is trying to control you and what you wear. Have you heard of temporary marriage? There are plenty on here who know. He can simply divorce you from a religious marriage by stating he divorces you three times. No legally binding commitment to you.

He can just move on once he is done. And yet you are questioning how he can marry in front of the imam when you have already said he is not practiscing (but he expects you to be a devout muslim - gimme a break). And then to top it all, you are telling us he is highly critical and jealous. Wherever he comes from, are you seriously considering marrying someone with those character traits? Do you think that behaviour will get better once you marry? If you do, you are kidding yourself. Step away from this. Re-read what you asked objectively. Imagine your sister asking you for advice on a marriage like the one you are proposing? Wouldnt you suggest she RUN???

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