Anna, Anna....

Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Mar 12, 2009 at 09:47

An algerian man wants to have a religious marriage with me. This is not legally binding.

1.He may be already married. In islam man can have up to four wives. If this marriage is not legally binding- then you will have no rights at all. Religious marriage can be ended by man by uttering triple "talaq"...Talaq,talaq,talaq- and you are divorced...

But for him it is important because he says we can then live together and start a family. He sya's if he was just marrying me for a greencard he wouldn't have a religios marriage because the religious marriage is efore ALLAH, Why would he lie before ALLAH?

2.Muslims are permitted to lie- especially to infidels, or even to one another...Prophet Mohammed himself permitted his followers to lie when it is needed...

The religious marriage is in front of a IMAM and is very serious for a muslim.

3.Yep. it is so serious that it can be dissoved by saying triple "talaq"...

I stated I would convert to ISLAM and he siad it will be done the day of the wedding. He says he wants me to wear the headscarfe and is teaching me how to pray(in arabic). He has already bought me books on islam and the prayer. It is very important to him that I am a practising muslim once married.

4.How great of you to treat your own culture and traditions like dirty, old, smelly rag which can be trashed without any second thought..

My question is. WHy would he go to such an effort to buy me books on islam, to teach me the religion if he was just planning on a greencard then divorce me?? Could he still be a scammer if we have a religious marriage? Is he just acting that he cares about my religious involvement to trick me into believing he is going to stay with me? He wants to have a baby STRAIGHT AWAY snd he is very controlling of what I wear(has to be respectful).

5.Muslims are promised a great reward for every person they manage to convert and they gain respect in the community for converting an infidel...

It is also a form of jihad to impregnate infidel woman- children will be muslims and even if the woman later divorce the muslim man- in most cases her fertile years are over- so she cant give birth to infidel children...Mission accomplished...

Getting pregnant just after marriage makes it more difficult to escape an abusive husband- who in 99% cases shows his true colors only after wedding...

Is he a scammer or serious? He lives with me. He doesn't have permanent residence in the USA . He is 8 years older than me and currently NON RELIGIOUS and has lived with other women before. He is already very critical of everything and JEALOUS.

Is he real of an ACTOR?? How desperate are these men wanting a greencard?

I am a beautiful, thin young woman. I am in love with him.

6. Anne, he is probably serious- but it doesnt mean that you are not walking into a living hell ...

Every single case of domestic violence starts with the man being jelous....Non-rational jelousy is also a symptom of many psychiatric diorders...

It is written in the Quran that a man can beat a wife simply if he suspect her of ill-conduct...He already suspects you, doesnt he?

the fact that he is critical is merely a tool do diminish your self-esteem...

Let me guess- is he sometimes all sweet and sometimes rather nasty? It is another method of manipulation and make you obey...

You are beatiful but I am sure you have issues...Maybe depression, mood problems, bad experiences in the past...bad childhood...

Maybe now you are having a difficult time- but he is not the solution to your problems...Please try to get professional help- the single fact that you are ready to let go of your entire identity is really alarming I am worried about you...

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