He wants legal marriage after

Submitted by Anna (Australia), Mar 12, 2009 at 23:37

He wants a religious marriage first because we want to live together acceptably, not in sin. The day we have our religios marriage he is going to ring his mother(in algeria) and tell her we are married. He is very serious about what other people think of me. He wouldn't want his family knowing we are living together before marriage.

I didn't want him living with me, but he forced himself in. He was very suspicious and would not accept that I did not want him living with me outside of marriage. I am VERY prudish he is not. He has lived with many women, his family know that. He says he has had many opportunities and offers of women to marry him so that he has a greencard, but he refuses.

He wants the LEGAL wedding ASAP after the religous marriage. He says if I loved him I would do everything possible to get his greencard. He always speaks about his other Algerian friends who have recieved their greencards because their wifes wanted TO HELP THEM.

I know he wants a greencard. For him the marriage is both out of NEED and TO REPRODUCE. I DONT WANT TO BE USED THEN DUMPED LIKE A KLEENEX.

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