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Submitted by Leigh (United States), Mar 13, 2009 at 13:54

My husband is still in Jordan and waiting his interview. I traveled there serveral times last year and have no plans to return. My last visit being in December. I did not realize he would be so jealous because I mentioned this man, but it doesn't matter. I am just sorry I could not get any information for you. My husband is hired by the week from tourist to be their personal drive while in Jordan. I have seen the little games they play to make money on the tourist.

What is the age Soli gave you. That will tell you alone if he is married. Most of these men are pressure to married in their late 20's, its like an important mission. along with having children. Everytime I turn around my husband is attending a wedding. They must marry one of their own, and after that, remember they can have up to 4 wives.

I found this site after my marriage. If you continue to read these blogs, you will begin to look at him in a different way. You will see the signs, just don't let his excuses blind you. You said he told you he has two girlfriends whom he signed a marriage contract? He is still married to them, I am sure. I will not say I am in love with him now, but I do still care and I miss him. We did have fun together the times I was there. If you go to Jordan, I guarentee you will fall deeper into him, and it will be just that much harder for you to turn him loose. I am at the point now where if he passes the interview it will be ok or if he doesn't it will still be ok. I really don't care anymore. My husband is not using me for money, but our marriage has VISA written all over it.

I don't care what the women who defend them say, but not this many women can speak of the same incidents about the same particular set of men and it not be true. There is too much similarity to these relationships. Yes families can be in on the scams, even ex-wives, especially when they know that this will help him. But in Jordan, they must show proof that they are divorced to get acceptance in this country. If he is approved, he can always go and take her back, it states that on his divorced agreement.

There is alot of crooked dealing that goes on under the table when these men wants to marry someone from another country. My husband wanted to marry me after 2 months of contact. At first he said he applied for a visitation visa and it could be up to 5 years for him to come to me (smile).

Then the "I love you" started to come too much and I knew they were phony, but I said what the heck, I'm just going to have some fun. He would say things like, you are my wife, you know what I'm thinking, I love you. (laughing), andt I knew he was full of S_ _t. But I married him anyway, not out of desparation, but to try something different. I am like you, we can still walk away, but there are some things he done for me and I would feel bad to dump him right this minute.

No I would not live in Jordan. Its ok to visit and I am sure my husband would not want me if I wanted to live there, and I am sure your friend would not want you either. My husband did mention me converting to Islam in the beginning, but I told him NO and then he come up with the ideal that it is ok for muslim to married a woman from the book, christian, or jew. He has even said he would get custody of his kids oneday and bring them with us, but I could not talk about christianity around them. He isn't a practicing muslim himself so I believe that is a lie too. Now he would not sleep with me until after we were married. I admired that about him.

I am average weight, maybe just a little thick in certain areas of my body. They don't care about your weight before they marry you, but I was told they would use that as an excuse to leave you if you don't lose it. Same as with their religion. My husband sister husband lives in Kuwait, he sent her and the children back to Jordan and the family is on her to lose weight, even though it is very common for arab man to live in another country away from his family to provide for them. If he is trying to change you now, I can imagine what he will do if you get together. My husband doesn't pushes any demands on me yet. Maybe because I am a little too outspokened.

Take care

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