To Anna - listen to Luigi

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Mar 14, 2009 at 14:09

I can't believe you are still considering marrying this man. He has revealed that he wants a green card from this marriage and you're still talking to him ??? This is the biggest red flag of all and he's been open about it and still you wonder if he's genuinely in love with you ??? You must have a death wish or believe you can't do better.

Listen to Luigi when he says these men have meticulously planned the game to get money or a visa. I know from my experience with my turkish husband just how incredibly meticulous these plans are, including laying the groundwork for the divorce as soon as they get ( or in my case, don't get) the visa. Witnesses were pre-arranged for divorce court to say we never lived together, leases had only his name on them until i demanded my name added for immigration purposes. And my husband comes from a very religious muslim family !!

Regarding religious marriages being valued, if this were true, why then is it so easy to divorce a woman ? What you don't know yet is how religion there is used to suit their purposes and also how easily the men will walk away from the marriage. Mine did and thought nothing of it, saying in an email " Forget me, i already forgot you". Marriage in muslim countries is not so sacred, it's an expedient contract that aligns families for financial purposes. The religion also allows temporary marriages, and this is probably all you are for him. Lastly, the fact that he's lived with many women should tell you he's not all that religious and is probably just another gigolo.

Why do this to yourself ? You are going to feel so incredibly dishonored after he dumps you. And he will dump you. So many women here were dumped as soon as the visa/green card came through. So you'll say "but my man is different". Want to risk all your self-respect on a man who's made his purpose clear and who's super controlling ( and will probably abuse you ) and will make you a slave ?

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