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Submitted by Leigh (United States), Mar 14, 2009 at 19:42

Luigi has a list of warning signs of scam relationships and marriages somewhere in these comments. Read through them as you communicate with Soli, I am sure you will see lots of red flags.

Him getting angry when you ask questions and refusing to speak to you is definitely a red flag. The same thing happened to me when I begun to ask questions I was given on this site. But if he contacted you after 2 days then you must be a good catch, and he is not going to let you go so easy. Its happening to me now. I don't care how good looking these guys are, its not so easy for them to get a wife that can sponsor them to the states believe me. Lots of them are turned away in Jordan so there must be some very intelligent agents questioning these guys in their interviews. Unless they find one they can bribe.

He is 32, that is around the age the majority marries. May I ask your age? He has already told you, 2 contracts with 2 girlfriends. Ask for proof that he is divorced from these women. These could be 2 women he married and maybe could not sponsor him. They could have fallen through for some reason. This is what makes me think its a scam.

You will more likely marry in court before a judge. Have you ever been married. A contract is what my husband and I have, but the US consider that legal as man and wife. My husband will say to me when we get into a fight, "We have a contract" (laughing). He hired a lawyer to translate all the papers for me and to help with the immigration. We did have a party after, for the purpose of pictures, he will make sure there will be plenty of pics for immigration. We visited and took picture in all the tourist sites, in which my husband knows very well.

Be aware of these sisters, one could be his wife, what are their ages? if you go and you meet them pay close attention to their relationship. The family helps each other even if they are married or not. Family is important. If he is willing to bring you out in the opening with his family then the family maybe in on it. I'm afraid if you go, you will make it even harder for yourself. Don't rush into marrying him. Don't sleep with him. Don't make him think that we are so easy and desperate for love.

Take care

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