Wow, controlled manipulation

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Mar 15, 2009 at 19:35

Wow... it's scary how these men plan everything down to the last detail, and extremely disturbing. In fact, I'd even go so far as to say that this behaviour reaches sociopathic lengths. No sound-minded human being, no matter how poor, could ever be so calculating. When tourists take a relaxing break at a hotel, the last thing they expect to encounter is a controlled web of deceit. I mean, do you see street beggars acting so manipulative? Nope, they at least sell Big Issues to make a living lol! In a word, it's pathetic! I sometimes wonder whether scammers ever grow older, still not exactly "rich" or living like what they saw on TV... & think, was it all worth it? Was breaking the hearts of all those women, & leeching like a gigolo really worth all this? Do they even feel any guilt? Wouldn't they rather live an honest existence, poor yet dignified... than mooching off of the fairer sex?

Instead of encouraging each other, & spreading negative energy they should get a decent moral education and try their hardest to make an honest living for themselves, rather than using others. Hate truly does breed hate. And the way these men influence each other is dangerous, as they use propaganda much like how terrorists recruit young upstarts.

I've heard about how these men will pepper their compliments with broken english (they think women find it "cute" - hey, some do), even if they might have a degree in English language. They like to think of themselves as "hustlers", when in actual fact they're little more than male escorts.

I think that by the guy saying all that to you (can't be a waiter forever, loneliness etc.) he was trying to gain your sympathy - which is cute in small boys, but with grown men it doesn't fly. They know that most women have a maternal caring gene, which they of course abuse to the max. A few months back, I was being phone-stalked (which also sounds funny, but wasn't in essence) by an older Egyptian man who told me similar stories to earn my pity: "I'm gonna be a lonely old man"... "my phone was stolen" etc. So all I ever responded with was: "well, what do you want me to do about it?" If a man's 3rd mobile phone has been stolen he should probably ring his network provider! So the best thing to do is react with coldness, & be as aloof as possible. This way, you'll see what he truly wants... & if he knows he'll never get it, he'll eventually give up. Because these men feed on the image of "warm, caring, wealthy western woman".

This is why it annoys me how most people always blame the mere woman. I have less sympathy for those who actively seek out hot muslim men, but when scammers plan out every little detail - like the hotel thing - it's a form of controlled abuse. I really have no tolerance for overgrown child-men who didn't receive enough hugs from their mothers in childhood!

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