skilled men

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Mar 16, 2009 at 20:17

Hi Lina/Ladies

I believe some of these men in tourism are indeed sociopaths, I can see now from my experience how they plan their moves and groom us. They work together in groups unknowing to their victims who want to believe in them. Taking advantage of our relaxed mood on holiday, sweet words and affection, moving through each phase in the relationship, reeling us in slowly until we are caught and then its too late to escape, we are then devoured leaving us nothing for them just to discrard us!

Mine spoke broken English( and yes it was cute ha!) but his sisters and brothers all spoke good English, when I questioned this he had no answer just evaded the question,( as they do) now I realize his English was better than he was portraying, I can see this and other things now I am out of the relationship and have space to breathe and focus properly. ( because they have a way of smothering you in a sort of controlling way)God when I realize all the similarities on this board , I must have been in another world!! love love love! Their friends tell you how much he misses you and he don't sleep blah blah...... ladies, when you are so involved with your man you don't heed the warnings, but you must for your own future happiness, I was fighting my instincts for a long time and they proved me right. Mine could not wait for me, (what he meant was his plan was taking too long ) he did me a favour because although I miss him ? and have some beautiful memories, I can see that I had more trauma and pain always doubting if I was the only one, am I being used etc. I can see his games clearly now and I am starting to accept I was another on his hit list, but I am starting to return to the normal happy life I had before he pounced on me. I don't blame the women, like me I knew nothing of what they do, I do blame them because they are just predators, taking advantage of women who are genuine caring and honest people hoping their man is different.

If you feel something is not right but can't/don't want to let go of your man(as they are persistant/persuasive )then imagine the worst that could happen to you and ask yourself could you go through with dealing with it? are you deluding yourself into thinking you could handle it but living for the moment? IF ITS HARD TO LET GO NOW THEN HOW WILL YOU FEEL 2-3---6 YEARS DOWN THE LINE ???

This is for the ladies who know inside that something is wrong but are hesitant in case they might be paranoid. If he makes you feel like this now then GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!

wish you all the happiness you deserve

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