Wow...

Submitted by Ayah (United States), Mar 17, 2009 at 18:04

I've read so many your stories, ladies, and I'm really surprised, and very sorry too for some of the stuff you've been through : [ But I'd just like to get my story out there...for anyone who's interested in reading it. It's actually pretty different from what I've read, and I just felt like adding it for a bit of a different perspective.

I, like many of you, met a Moroccan man online. We've been communicating for almost two years now, alhamdolillah : ] He's from Casablanca, he'll be 23 in a couple of days, and he's employed. I first met him when I was 17 years old (I've just recently turned 19)...so yes, there's a little bit of an age gap between us, but it's so little it's not even noticeable. I'm also a practicing Muslim lady, and he is a practicing Muslim man : ] We've been engaged since the end of october, 2007. We won't be getting married, however, until I'm out of college, which will be in another three years, insh'Allah. Currently, we talk around 2 times a week for hours on webcam (we're both busy people...me with school, and him with work, but we make good use of the weekends!), and we'll have 10 or 15 minute conversations by phone when we're really missing eachother. It can be difficult sometimes, but we've gotta be patient : ] We plan on living in Morocco, not in the U.S. (he has never expressed even the slightest desire to come to the U.S., in fact when he first met me, he had no idea I was from the U.S.). So, at the moment, we are just waiting for me to finish school so that I can go over to Morocco and we can get married, insh'Allah, and start our life together. Eventually we want to have children, insh'Allah, if Allah(swt) blesses us with a family : ]

So yeah, that's basically my story and situation in a nutshell. Again, I am very sorry for all of you ladies out there who have been treated rather disgustingly by these "men." Please just remember that not all Arab/Moroccan/Muslim men are the same. Something to watch out for in particular is a man who says he is a "Muslim," yet doesn't act at all like one (i.e. he's interested in just "casual dating," or has had girlfriends in the past, or drinks...etc, the list just goes on and on). Drop him like a hot potato (even though I know it can be difficult...but trust me...you don't want to put yourself through a relationship with someone like this, you'll just be hurt in the end...I have no PERSONAL experience with this, but there are a lot of slimey men out there >_<)!

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