Foreign Relationships can work

Submitted by Wife of a Turk (United States), Mar 20, 2009 at 15:07

Morrocco has 34.5 million, there are plenty more than 6,000 single men there looking for love. Your finding this site doesn't prove much in my opinion because you can find that number times a million of American men on websites looking for love.

It IS possible to find a man on the internet who is from a muslim country and sincere. I married a Turkish man, whom was my pen pal via the internet for three years. But I had the wits to check everything out before marrying him. I checked his bank account receipts, met his family, stayed in his home and went to his work. I demanded to see his birth certificate, diplomas, a copy of his criminal history, a report from his consulate to see any legal deeds registered concerning him (land deeds, marriage contracts, etc). I talked to his Imam, colleagues, former professors, etc. I made DAMN sure when he stepped foot in my country he had the ability to support himself and was coming for ME.

But too many women allow themselves to get swept up in the emotions and don't stop long enough to think logical. Some feel bad to demand that rigorous background check. Well, DONT. When a muslim makes nikkah both families have to sit down and everything is poured over from education and monetary gains, to morality and familial reputation. So why would you dare to feel bad about asking the same?

If you want a relationship with a foreign muslim man you have to remember a very important thing: Never put all your eggs in one basket. If he doesn't want to prove everything there's a new man right around the corner who can easily replace him. Don't invest emotion in someone whose unwilling to back up what they claim. The world is chalk full of liars and users, don't waste time being shocked, instead get the emotional and logical tools to ensure you won't be a sucker.

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