Lily...

Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Mar 23, 2009 at 17:45

You wrote:

I am 24 and divorced with two young children . I have met a muslim man from Turkey over the internet, He thinks like me and i feel deeply for him. He wants my children and I to travel to Turkey soon, he said he would pay for it. He wants to marry me and adopt my children. We would live there (in turkey) together. We have been talking for 10 months, 7 months on the phone and writing letters.

Well is it possible for a man raised in the muslim country to think like Western woman ? I highly doubt it...

Why so much women fall for Internet Cassanovas ? Are there so many superb men looking for the love via the Internet ?

Or are they mostly scammers/visa hunters who would tell anything you want to hear, promise you anything you want ?

Muslim men marry rather virgins- and the children after divorce remain with their father- so it is quite rare for a muslim man to raise non-biological children...

The talk with his mother means nothing ...sorry- if he is a visa hunter- the family will participate in the scam- they will also profit from son/relative in USA/Europe...

Also your children will be completely separeted from their biological father in you move to Turkey...

He has showed me pictures of his family and i have even talked to his mother. We talk about important things, and our lives, I just want a good husband , and he says he wants a good wife. Any advice?...I would really be grateful. Thank you - Lily

"Good" can mean sth very different to you and to him...

Please consider for yourself and your children's sake how the health care / education / free time opportunities can be different in Turkey...for exapmle: even if you are to live in Stambul- wives are expected to sit at home while husband is away with mates- in Turkey only native men and foreign tourists sits in Chaee-Khaneh- tea houses.

The less we know about a man the more we project our own wishes and dreams on them...We are in love not with the man but with a dream that dont exist...

Think about it...

Best wishes,

M.

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