Arranged Marriages, Etc

Submitted by To Farrah (United States), Mar 23, 2009 at 21:09

Farrah, you are not always 100% correct. I typed in caps cause the kids left it and i had already started what i wrote and was tired and really didn't think it would strike a nerve with you. No need for your sarcastic remarks just because i referenced your post.

You are always posting how your husband keeps you away from his friends how you have not been introduced to friends and family and all the men are like this. Why cause I post I was not treated this way and there are others I talk to that were treated same as I, you have to call me the Queen of England. Am I not allowed to contradict your post when you are referring to ALL of these men?

Farrah says: Your fiancee appeases them by promising $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$. And to one day marry the woman that they have chosen for him, long before you came along.

Farrah, Morocco is not strong on ARRANGED marriages and its usually done more in tribes or villages and India and other countries, not so much in Morocco. They also are more aware of the genetic problems that faces the children as well at birth. A niece that is strong in english spoke of this with me when we were talking about the two countries differences in beliefs about marrying cousins. We spoke of this subject concerning a cousin that is distance that wants to marry my fiance and beforte the mom met me this dad's relative had asked the mom twice to come and see his opinion of her and marriage. She is a pharmacist and has house car and money but he doesn't like her and knows it is becuse she wants to just have his kids and as a muslim woman she also smokes and drinks and my Fiance does not. I can tell you from my experience, they do not control my fiance's thoughts and future. Infact, he didn't like what his half sister was saying about me to the mom on the phone so he grabbed phone and hung up on her and told the mom to never discuss my Life with anyone and her again. The sister was planting doubts by saying all American's are hard and my kids will make his life hard......He is headstrong and he let them know its his life and will do what he sees fit and he also feels that 95% of the women there in Morocco would prostitute and is greedy for money. This is his opinion and I am sure he is overexaggerating.

Farrah writes: In the back of their minds, once they are assured you do not understand a bit of Arabic/French they do not even call you by your name. Whore is a strong word for USA ears, but that is the general term they use for lady that goes out about town with men, without marriage.

well farrah, we are marrying and his family and friends know this and I will probably convert to Islam since I am not a strong practicing babtist. and he knows I have not been with a man in 4 years so he knows I am not a whore so why do I care what you say others think. I don't think they think of all of us in this manner but I guess you have taken a Moroccan poll of these men and women and you hold all the answers? His mom loves me and is one who is teaching me Arabic so this contradicts your statement about us not knowing Arabic/French.

I sense bitterness in your posting cause you continue living with a man who does not love you so you have an agenda to try and have other women here see your views. All the men are not like your man farrah. Some really loves their wife/Fiance. Not all care where the woman lives as well for they can pick many countries not just USA and right now USA is not that great compared to others....like My husband said, USA is just a country baby . Its not paradise. The Consulate there are approving more Vietnamese women to marry the Moroccan men than any other culture i think so Visa Seekers know this as well.

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