Please Help, Dealing with Turkish man

Submitted by Vasi (United States), Mar 24, 2009 at 16:26

Hello, i will make the story brief. I am 21, living in USA, originally from Europe Bulgaria, i have a boyfriend who is 31 from Turkey( Bulgarian neighbor).

I am in the usa with my family so is my boyfriend. We have been dating for 1 year now, but we fight all the time for stupid things. He is Not Muslim, he has very open views, his family is not musim too they are called ALivi appreantly in Turkey there are many of those people who are not Muslim and are called Alivi. ( he even believes in God to some extend).

My biyfriend has enough money, he has his own business, owns a apartment and two nice cars. So in this case nobody is using nobody for money or Visa or anything like that.

The problems come from his Jelousy, and i guess difference cultures. Since i am with him, i stopped seeing any of my friends, i dont go out,. we live downtown and i dont go out anymore and i use to go out like crazy. He still goes out when i am not here he tells me about it. I trust him he doest cheat on me i know that on 100%.
I dont think he realizes all i do for him, and who i am. I never drink i dont smoke, i am a Virgin ( my choice) i am a model .I am a college student with highest GPA, smart with supportive family. He has everything a turkish man can dream of, be he doesnt appretiate it.

For him is normal to take a vacation without me, as he is leaving to Miami tommorow to "see friends" . He did it twise this summer tgoing to turkey a total of 30 days vacation for his both trips. he went to see his family but he also made a small vacation to Bodrum with a guy friend.

I told him money is not a problem and i will pay my ticket to go with him...

He is always jelous, i went to chicago for 4 days to see a Gf that goes to one of the University i want to tansfer to, he made me reget i went there. He was contantly checkin me where i was with who, why i am up so late. we fought so much while i was there.

I know some of you are more familiar with the turish people, Please tell me something. I cant just leave him and run. I want him to open his eyes. What can i do?
I made so many changes while we are together.. I learned to cook, which i never cooked before. He loves my cooking, i cook tukish and Bulgaian dishes. His family loves me, my family like him too. I tell my mom eveythign he does and she is worry for me, and prays i find the perfect person,

I and him love kids, and when we see a baby we alays make comments. He wants tohave kids one day.

I really want him to start appretiating me more, and start carrying for the relationship. ;( I dont know what to do anymore.

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