Need some input

Submitted by Pandora (United States), Mar 26, 2009 at 19:35

Hi, I am dating a Turkish guy who is 15 years my junior. He's been here about a year, I saw his passport (with the time limit date on it) and he says he plans never to go back. He is a Muslim but doesn't practice. He doesn't eat pork, but he might have the occasional beer (hasn't seen him drink yet). He lives in the same town as me. I am divorced with one child, and she has met him, but they haven't spent any significant time together.
Anyhow, I am concerned because I feel like I may be losing my perspective. He treats me well, but has talked about moving in together and getting married. It's way too soon to think about that. I went thru an awful divorce (to a fellow American no less), and am not overeager to jump back in.
He works eves and goes to an ESL school during the day (I met him at his job), and I've checked him out. At first, I thought it was fishy that he wouldn't let me see his apt. At first, when I dropped him off, he would walk down the street and I had no idea where he lived. I pressed the subject and then I saw where he lived, and I met his 2 roommates (women, same country about my age). They're here under similar circumstances (ESL and work). I saw that the school he goes to sets them up that way (place to live, required attendance, etc.). I saw his books and he had me drive past the school, so I know he's not lying about that.

It's just that since I started to read the stuff in here, and gasp, I wonder if he is just using me for GC. I live with my folks and have no immediate plans to move out (on my own or even with him). It's just too soon. I also plainly told him I have no plans to convert to Islam (he seemed perfectly OK with that). He's so nice and says the right things, I just can't help this niggling feeling that "if it looks too good to be true, it usually is". I'm head over heels. Help!

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