Thank you Luigi

Submitted by Ayah (United States), Mar 28, 2009 at 00:54

Greetings to you as well, my brother in Abraham,
Thank you for your message, a lot of what you said made sense. I agree that Muslims really should stick to marrying other Muslims (we don't believe in dating...which I guess could explain why I said that I have just been communicating with my fiance), because the majority of the time it will create tension and problems if the husband is Muslim and the wife is not (even though Muslim men are allowed to marry Muslim, Jewish, and Christian women).

... I appreciate your concern for me, but I do have someone who's looking out for me as far as the marriage goes, and that is my father. It is my father's job as my wali to protect me from any marriage match he sees as unsuitable or potentially dangerous for me. So, when my fiance talks to me, he also talks to my father. And when we do meet eachother eventually, my father is required to be with us at all times, so that we are not alone together.

I realize that my situation is very different than the situations of the other women on this blog (I'm Muslim, I'm very young, I've never dated or been in a relationship before this one, I'm obviously not divorced, I don't have children...that would be quite impossible actually for obvious reasons...the list goes on and on...), and perhaps it was a bit irrelevant of me to post about it anyways. I guess I just wanted people to know that not all Muslim men are monsters.

which brings me to why I'm here in the first place...
...I do a lot of interfaith work and discussion, and for the next discussion I wanted to talk about clearing up stereotypes of Muslim men...so I am here as a result of my research for my interfaith work, not for personal reasons : ]

Peace be with you

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