To Pandora

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Mar 28, 2009 at 14:07

The age difference is a huge red flag. I married a much younger Turkish man who just wanted a permanent resident visa for Canada ( same as green card in U.S. ). I didn't know the culture then or else I would have run the other direction.

99 % of the time Turkish men marry women who are 1) younger or same age 2) muslim 3) Turkish 4) virgin. This is hugely important in their culture.

Another huge red flag is the rushed marriage thing. Plus you know he wants to stay in the USA. He will abandon you and your daughter as soon as he gets the green card.

Thirdly, he's being very secretive about his roommates. One of them might be his fiance and you'll never know. They often have a woman waiting while their man gets the green card. Then they dump the spouse and marry the Turkish woman who's been waiting. Abuse is common in Turkish culture so be careful - he may abuse you to force you to start the divorce as soon as his card is approved.

Re: he's nice to you - of course he is. Part of the scam.

You have a child to consider here so please drop this guy before you're in too deep. Read ALL my posts to see what happens to naive women who marry Turkish men.

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